Abstract:
There have been various
debates to the effect that gay marriages should be legalized. However, most
religious leaders have maintained the argument that gay marriages are wrong.
With this conflicting view of gay marriages, the writer, through this research
paper seeks to explain why gay marriages are indeed wrong. The views
represented are however, not a general representation but the writer’s own.
Analysis:
In the western world
and even in other countries all over the world, it has always been common
knowledge that marriage is meant for both a man and woman who commit towards
spending their entire lives together. This is what has been ideally
conceptualized to marriage with any other arrangement other than the above
being a contradiction of how things are meant and were supposed to be.
According to Doctor Benne and Doctor Mc Dermott, gay marriages are a key to
permitting infidelity in relationships and marriages (Borroway, 2004).The effect of such kind of
marriages would be that infidelity will tend to be the backbone of the commitment
in marriages. Gay marriages advocate, Andrew Sullivan more than consents with
this argument. He clearly relates ion his book that due tot the influence of
gay marriages, there will be a greater desire for extra marital affairs between
men than between spouses of the different sex. This is also strengthened by
Troy Perry, a spokesman advocating for the same sex marriages who states that since
they are not in a capacity to marry; different people have come up with
different ideologies about what should constitute faithfulness (Corvino & Gallagher, 2012). To others, it
encompasses having many spouses so long as there is openness when doing so. On
the other hand however, the gay society has argued that the relationship
between gay marriages and polygamy is very scant. Long before gay marriages
were being advocated for and propagated, states like Utah had already legalized
polygamy. In countries like Africa, this is a normal phenomenon. How then can
gay marriages simply be equated to polygamy yet polygamy existed long before
gay marriages were even recognized? However, the analysis by Mr. Andrew has
been indeed proved correct through a survey conducted in the Netherlands .A
country where gay marriages have been legalized. It was discovered that
homosexual relationships would entail on the average, attest each man with
about 8 other male partners in one year besides the relationship they have with
their married gay partner! This is clear evidence that through permitting gay
marriages, we would be making the society open to polygamy which is in fact rising
at a very fast rate (
Andryszewski, 2007)
It should be clear
knowledge that children are to be brought up in a proper family structure,
consisting of a mother and father. Not two fathers or vice versa. How then can
gay marriages be supported if they are detrimental to the upbringing of the
children in the society? There is also a greater likelihood that the gay
parents may deem it appropriate to molest the young children under their care.
The article “child trends” clearly demonstrates that the structure in which
children have been brought up is very important in their upbringing. The most
beneficial structure as quoted by the article is the type that encompasses two parents,
biologically related to the child and in a marriage that does not conflict the child
understands (Eskridge&Spedale, 2007). In this regard therefore,
it was consequently proved that children that had been brought up in gay
families tend to suffer from gender disorientation, molestation and constantly
have to witness homosexual love experiences from time to time. This is not only
detrimental to their growth but also very detrimental to their emotional and
psychological well being. Why then should we expose our young ones to
situations that would evidently even disorient their understanding and lives in
regards to sexuality.In this case therefore, the youngsters especially the teenagers
will grow up with immense conflict regarding their sexuality. This is supported
by the evidence related in the 1991 scientific survey conducted in males aged
between 14-21 years old (Borroway, 2004).
The society will also
not go unharmed by the pangs of gay marriages. As the situation currently states,
the marriage institution is constantly suffering breakdowns, with many families
divorcing and separating. Being that gay marriages also seek for family stability,
there would be no reason as to why they marry. However, there effect on the
families will be tremendous. Many spouses that have been unsure of their
position in the relationship may find it easier to consider same sex
relationships and thus disseminating the previous ties they had with their families.
This is because through the introduction of the idea of gay marriages more uncertainty
and instability is introduced in the already married couples who could be
possibly going through a rough patch in their current situation. Instead of
being encouraged to make it work, it will be encouraging them to walk away.
Conclusion:
Gay marriages are to a
greater part detrimental to the society but most especially to the children
involved in the set up. It would not be fair to subject a child to such a
family structure well knowing that they cannot adequately voice their concerns.
Just a the gays have a right to life and to choosing their way of life, in that
same way also they should not subject
young children to their way of life through adoption.
References
Borroway, J, (2004), Point by point: Refuting
Benne and McDermott. Retrieved from www.boxturtlebulletin.com/Articles/000,008.htm
Corvino,J, Gallagher, M,(2012), Debating
Same-Sex Marriage, Point counter point, Pennsylvania,
oxford university press.
Andryszewski, T, (2007), Same
sex marriage: Moral wrong or civil right? Exceptional social studies titles for upper grades, New
York, Twenty-First century books.
Eskridge,W,E,
Jr., Spedale,D,R,(2007),Gay marriage for
better or for worse?:What we’ve learned
from the evidence, Pennsylvania, oxford university press.
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